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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve had kids at both SSSAS and Burgundy for MS. SSSAS was the far better experience both socially and academically. There is absolutely no comparison.

SSSAS has a block schedule, PE or athletics (7/8) 4x a week, an hour for lunch and recess and a daily STAT period to meet with teachers. I actually found it to be more progressive in how they teach and the projects they have the kids do. The faculty and administrators at SSSAS are much stronger than those at BFCDS and they actually teach the kids executive function skills. There are also close to 100 kids in a grade versus 25-30 at BFCDS which makes it a much better environment socially. You will find your people.

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[b]If your kid is even slightly outside whatever current middle schoolers consider “normal” or “popular”, Burgundy Farm is absolutely the better choice. SSSAS is filled with cliques and desire for popularity is a real thing. This just isn’t a thing at Burgundy and the kids remain younger in their interests (not much into name brand clothes, “dating”, etc.) as a result.[/quote][/b]

This is 100% true. The type of kid you have matters a LOT. SSAS and BFCDS are almost polar opposites when it comes to teen culture. I know this directly from personal experience with my kids and very close friends kids. SSSAS is very sporty, lots of cliques. BFCDS is very much a school where quirky doesn't even get blinked at.[b] I have one friend who's kid left SSSAS after 8th grade after being intentionally cyber targeted by a group of girls in 8th grade. When asked why they did it, the answer was literally "no reason, we just all decided we didn't like her anymore". It was like something out of a bad movie or a sensationalistic news story. It was horrific for the poor girl involved. [/b][/quote]

Be aware though that is not limited to a single private school. This happens all the time in private schools where you have a cohort of kids who go through school together and the classes are small. The same story could be told at any private school in the area including religious schools. It's just something that happens in private schools. It happened in the one I attended growing up as well. [/quote]

Indeed.  Even our lovely Burgundy had a clique of mean girls a few 8th grades ago.[/quote]

Not on the same level as the SSSAS cliques or meanness. Burgundy is just really small and kids are expected to be BFFs with the same kids since K. It is normal developmentally for girls to shift friend groups in middle school not once, but sometimes a few times. Completely normal. At a small school, it can absolutely feel exclusionary or mean. The kids being left out of the friend shift feel they are the object of “mean” girls. In Burgundy’s case, a few Moms told every last parent they knew that there was a group of mean girls bullying their kids. I’m sorry, but that was not the story. My kid was in this class, but was a boy. [/quote]

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