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[quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Yes, I do not like to cook.  Why is that hard to understand?  My husband does most of the cooking and when I cook I cook simple things.  So a restaurant take-out meal (traditional Thanksgiving meal) sounds like a great idea.  We might make a few side dishes to go along with it.

I have a hard time letting go of the idea of the big, loving, supportive family holiday gatherings, where cousins, aunts and uncles are all there, along with the grandparents.  I have never had that, even when I was growing up.  I grew up without any local family either, and I thought it was lonely, even when I was a child.  Due to various reasons including distance and dysfunctionality, and also the fact that the in-laws do not celebrate any holiday and don't want to join us, we have never had that and will never had the big family holiday gatherings.  It makes me incredibly sad.

We've tried to create a family of choice but this is very challenging.  Everyone already has their friends/family already.  Everyone I meet here already has at least one set of relatives/grandparents here and they spend holidays with them.  We are the only ones in our social circle who doesn't see family for holidays (again due to distance first of all but also dynfuctionality and disinterested relatives).

While it's fine to spend the occasional holiday alone with just our little family, we spend every holiday alone (and have for the last 15 years).  I am in therapy over this issue, but it's hard to accept that we're very much on our own with no family support on either side, not just at holiday time but all the time.[/quote]

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