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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have slow faded people and probably they have felt ghosted. I think sometimes people want open explanations but aren't always open to what is presented to them, don't accept it - argue. It's not a case of needing to defend yourself, it is simply that the other person no longer wants to be around it / you.

Friends come and go, this is something people need to accept. Years ago I had a work friend who told me she thought each person she was friends with served a function and they were easily replaceable, or in time would automatically be replaced by another person with the same function. It seemed harsh at the time I heard it but she was absolutely right and as a result she had no trouble moving on from friendships that didn't really hold water any more. [/quote]

I prefer to hold onto my gold … but always welcome new silver …

“Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other gold”

― Girl Scouts of the USA[/quote]

Weird to just drop routinely drop friends …. I like to keep at least 1-2 from different phases of life - school, Uni, travels abroad, schools of kids etc. it is important to me to have some friends who have known you through major changes - and for me to know others as they evolve …[/quote]

Weird and immature. I realized a couple of weeks ago that I was on the receiving end of a not-so-slow fade. Since that's not my MO, it took me a minute to catch on. Are my feelings hurt? You bet. Am I going to make a big deal and call it out? Nope. Just putting a pin in how not to treat people. I have plenty of friends, and some of them I don't see much these days because of moves, jobs, kids, life. But we keep in touch. And I've never ghosted anyone nor has anyone ever done it to me before. Or maybe they have and I'm just incredibly dim.

At any rate, why burn bridges? Boundaries yes, but dropping friendships? When you are an adult? sheesh.[/quote]

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