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[quote=Anonymous][quote]You don't "let them go", you distance. You talk/see them less. A lot less. If it was a weekly friend, make it monthly. If it was monthly, make it 3 times a year. It if was 3 times a year, make it once a year or once every other year.

And what happens when they keep contacting you or even tell you how much it hurts them that you don’t put in more effort? I do the slow fade myself but over the years, I have had two friends make clear that they wanted me to be in better touch and they were very hurt that I didn’t put in more effort[/quote]

If they completely reject you because they aren't getting enough of your attention, so be it. If they completely reject you because you are not having a heart-to-heart discussion with them over this, so be it. You are entitled to privacy, to the degree you desire. Their emotional expectations are not more important than this.

The idea is: the time you spend together is pleasant. Imho, any two people can get along for -some- period of time. Hopefully enjoy each other. The hard part is finding the length and duration. If both are working to advance the relationship, the time increases. If only one works to advance the relationship, it isn't right for the time to increase.[/quote]

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