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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah, that's all made up.[/quote]

[b]You don't have kids at top private. People are crazy. And obnoxious. I can totally believe a parent was made to feel embarrassed their DC was going to Indiana.[/b] Not that they should feel that way, or have any reason to feel that way, but that they did, and I appreciate the honesty. I recently had a parent at my DCs school tell me that another DC was going to INdiana, but they quickly followed up with "they're in Kelley," which is the Business School. Indiana is a great school in a great college town. [/quote]

Help me understand though. What makes these privates "top privates"?? And what did you (and other parents) think college process will end up? Did you honestly think there aren't enough smart/qualified kids in public??

- np[/quote]

Come on.  You know.  The top privates are the name brand schools.  Where parents think the "college process will end up" varies greatly by parent.  I have a kid at one of these and I'd say that at least 80% of the parent body went to top 50 schools themselves. Probably 50% went to top 20 schools.  So they hope for the same or their kids, although college admissions are entirely different today than they were in the late 80s or early 90s.  Some of their kids are incredibly smart and some are just bright but all have worked really hard.  I have a two kids in public and one in a top private and the amount of work the private school expects dwarfs the expectations of the public school.  These kids are really put through their paces with reading, writing, etc. It's a grind.  There are no retakes, no late assignments, just continual stream of homework and more homework.  So I can see why parents expect a decent college result because their kids have slogged through a lot.  It's sink or swim.  Those who graduate (and kids are counseled out) are pretty impressive even if they were not outlying geniuses to start with. They've been beaten into being great writers, etc.

I have yet to go through the college admissions process but I'm dreading it.  Almost everyone wants the same schools.  Clearly that won't come close to happening.  [/quote]

We have been pleasantly surprised to find that it is not true that almost everyone wants the same schools. Smart kids really invest in finding the school that best meets what they want and need and often it isn't the schools you'd expect the "top kids" to apply to. It makes one look at all those lists of where kids from X school go to college in a whole new light after you've been through the process. There are so many more important factors that kids care about than rank and prestige and where mom and dad went.[/quote]

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