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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like the women overwhelmed by holiday hosting need to get a little more assertive and introspective. You probably ended up hosting because you value tradition and holidays and family. You probably enjoy being the hostess on some level, and there are benefits to hosting (mainly not having to travel.) Your family has come to rely on you doing this probably because you’ve always been more capable and organized, because you appear to be the person who cares the most, and because sexism/laziness.

Unless you actually know what you want and assert it, you’ll never get what you want. Childishly going on strike or silently resenting your family isn’t going to get you what you want.

So ask for what you want: someone else to host? Potluck at your house? Someone to cohost with you? Get it catered at your house and everyone pitches in on the cost? [/quote]

I agree with this. What exactly do you want, OP? If it is to not host and not see your family, okay… but it sounds like you do want those things just to be better than they are right now. [/quote]

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