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[quote=Anonymous]I talk to friends about (1) the stuff we have in common, (2) the stuff they bring up, and (3) the stuff I bring up because I want to tell them or would like their opinion.

If I don't work with you and you never mention your job, I'm not going to bring it up. Similarly, if I've never met your family and you've never mentioned them, I am not going to pester you with questions about them. Want to know why? Because I figure there's a reason this person doesn't talk about this stuff. Maybe it's painful, maybe it's dull, maybe it's just not a source of interest for them. Maybe one day they'll decide they want to confide in me about it. Maybe not. It's up to them to decide, not me.

I also hate when people pepper me with questions about my job, family, childhood, health, etc. My MIL is like this and thinks it's a good way to "get to know" me. It's not. It makes me feel like I'm being interrogated. I have found the best way to get to know anyone is to talk about easy subjects and let them open up slowly over time as they feel comfortable. Talk about books, movies, the grandkids, current events, hobbies, travel, etc. If someone wants to share more of themselves, they will.[/quote]

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