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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can only tolerate my family with my husband there so it would be a no for us.  My husband cannot tolerate my family much so we don't see them much.  I used to visit my MIL alone but that is because I had more time than he did.  I would be hurt if she said I don't want to see you and only my son.[/quote]

Dh can only handle his mom and sister with us there too (us being me and kids - his dad passed away a long time ago). I’d have no issue if she wanted to go out with dh and kids without me but I’ve known her for almost 30 years (lol) and have spent enough time with her. I probably would have been offended, though, if she suggested it when kids were really young. My parents are both deceased now but we all (dh, me and kids) would have appreciated some time with just my dad. He remarried after my mom died and his wife was always with him and she had no interest in any of us. Depends on the situation. [/quote]

I have no issue if my DH wants to go out with my family and would be thrilled.  His mom was funny to me at first but it was more about how her other DIL treated her as well as my husband's ex-wife but then she switched and called me more and I'd call her and we became close.  It takes two people to make a good relationship.  When she got sick, I stepped up and took care of her.

My parents have little interest in us.  My mom will not let us see her without her boyfriend, who is ok but I just not comfortable with as he's not very warm or friendly.  But, its probably because she bad mouths me regularly.  She prefers his family and his grandkids so it works out well and we only hear from her a few times a year when his family is't available.  My kids have zero interest in her as she always brags about his grandkids and doesn't realize her grandkids are actually doing well and more advanced than his.    We all just laugh about it now.

My Dad is too busy with his multiple girlfriends.

OP, if the girlfriend/boyfriend treats you well, return the favor.  Don't shut them out and treat them like you treat your own kids.

OR, you will end up like my parents where the kids and grandskids make no effort to see you and get to the point where they stop caring as you don't.  It takes everyone to maintain good relationships.  My MIL always sent me birthday and holiday gifts as she did my husband (mine were often "better").  She had little money but they were always thoughtful and she tried so hard.  I'll always love her for that stuff.[/quote]

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