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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think there is an incredibly wide variety of what "jeans and a t-shirt" can mean.  I'd buy new stuff every few years to make sure the cuts and silhouettes are keeping a bit.  It doesn't have to be trendy, but if you are still wearing jeans from college 10+ years ago, it's probably time for an update.

Look around at other women whose style you like.  They don't need to be trendy, and you don't have to make all the same choices, but it's a good way to gauge what needs refreshing in your own wardrobe.

Beyond that, I don't think the details of what you wear matter much.  If you are comfortable, and dressing appropriately for the occasion, no issues.  [/quote]

This is where I am with what my husband wears.  His jeans from 10 years ago look frumpy now.  I do buy clothes for him to refresh a bit, keeping with what is his style and preferences.   [/quote]

OP here. I wear clothes from years ago. It feels wasteful to me to get rid of them. I feel the same about buying new clothes. I already have enough to wear, so it feels like a waste of money to buy more.

I do look at other women’s outfits, but I have a hard time imagining how those clothes would look on me. It’s outside of my comfort zone.

I think I dress appropriately for where we go. It’s just that we don’t really go anywhere that would require dressier attire. We make decent salaries (HHI $350K), we just don’t eat at expensive restaurants or go to shows (I’ve never been to the Kennedy Center).

DH bought me 2 casual dresses, and I didn’t like the way they looked on me so I never wear them. He has comments to friends in the past he likes how some Latina women dress and weather girls. It’s just not me at all. [/quote]

Ok so there is a HUGE middle ground between Latina bombshells and frumpy (possibly?)  jeans and a t-shirt.

How about a nice blouse?  A date night outfit that shows just a little more?  You still want to be comfortable, but there has to be something that you put on that makes you think "yup this looks great" even if you don't wear it daily.  Wearing it sometimes is ok too!  I used to wear a lot of heels, and now I don't.  But I don't just do boring ballet flats.  Get some cute sandals, or a chunky low heel booties, or whatever feels attainable to you.  Maybe find a dress you DO like, not what your DH bought you.  Make sure you have shoes to go with it that you also like, but that maybe look more exciting than your normal things.

Even if you are doing jeans and sneakers, what sneakers are you wearing?  Old beat up dirty ones?  Do you have a "nice" pair?  If you wear a button down, is it a bit fitted, or just baggy and loose?

You make a huge amount of money.  Go to Nordstrom and buy some nice casual clothes that look good and are comfy.  [/quote]

Thank you for the thoughtful response. I probably just need to get over it and try harder. I don’t really think fancier/more expensive clothes look any better on my mom bod.  DH has been very understanding with my issues. I just felt a little guilty lately that I feel more comfortable in my regular duds. [/quote]

NP a stylist could help you find what you love. Don’t approach it from the standpoint of what you “should” wear or how you “should” dress. Have fun. See what fabrics feel good on your skin. See what colors you like. Play with different styles to see what’s comfortable and works on your build. You can also bring pictures of what you feel comfortable in and say you are looking for an elevated version of your everyday. [/quote]

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