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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your child is a toddler and should be in a group daycare/preschool. Where there will be teachers, and other kids to interact with and learn social skills. Not be with 1 nanny all day. Therein lies the bigger problem.[/quote]

Young toddlers don’t need to play with other children.  In fact, 1-2yo learn more from an adult tha they do from socializing with peers.  At that age, I fa still parallel play, and there’s sufficient opportunities at the park.  Once they’re 3-4yo and playing together, group care makes sense.[/quote]

At age two they really do need to be in a small group. That's where they learn associative play. 
We often noticed children who were with mom all day, or the nanny were more difficult. Separation anxiety, and difficulties getting along with a bigger group. 
OP's child is over two. A nanny who texts all day - NO![/quote]

Any child of any age who stays home all the time and doesn’t socialize won’t be able to function immediately in groups.  But a nanny or sahm can supplement superior care at home (where the ratio is much, much lower!) with occasional group activities and get the same benefits as the child serves from group care with none of the drawbacks.[/quote]

Teachers see it all the time. The kids at home have a hard time adjusting to a schedule. Not to mention social problems.

Even p/t daycare or preschool would be beneficial.[/quote]

Eh, it's not that straightforward. Most nannies and SAHMs put their kids on a schedule -- kids need it and it makes your job easier. Plus since kids need it even a kid who was on a less rigid schedule at home will usually acclimate pretty quickly to a school schedule because it feeds their need for consistency and knowing what's going to happen.

Sometimes there are social adjustment issues, but those are as likely to be a child feeling shy because they are unused to playing in a big group, as a child being aggressive because they are unused sharing toys or attention. And a good nanny or SAHM will have gotten the child plenty of socialization via play groups and classes (during non-Covid times), so this might not even be an issue at all. Plus it's not like daycares and preschools turn out universally perfect children. Behavioral issues arise for any number of reasons. Also, some daycares and preschools are actively bad.

One major benefit to a nanny or SAHM is that toddlers are building their sense of self and having a dedicated caregiver who provides them with lots of attention and support generally gives them a very secure sense of their place in the world. There is a transition period when they begin school where it is scary to lose that 24/7 care. But after the transition period, and when they discover that their family is still there and supporting them when they get home from school, they really benefit from that secure sense of self and belonging. This can head off behavioral issues not just in K but way down the line. Secure attachment and a sense of safety and security in early childhood years has a very long-lasting positive impact on kids. Kids can absolutely get this in daycare too (and some kids are more likely to get it in daycare than at home, actually), but that is one reason why kids coming from good SAHM/nanny arrangements tend to adjust well to school environments despite not having as many opportunities to socialize first.[/quote]

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