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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Whatever you do, don’t assume you can just have the 3-4 kids do the same sports to make it easier. [/b] First of all, kids aren’t like that - they have their own individual strengths and interests.  Second, with various ages, it doesn’t help you much anyway - games and practices and tournaments will all be at different times anyway.  At most you are helped by passing down cleats or equipment - aka it doesn’t help you much.[/quote]

+1 So true!  I had (misguided) visions about my oldest 2 on the same teams, (just a year apart).   Nope.  They are so different.  Which is great - if a little harder transportationally.[/quote]

+10000. I have 3, ages 4, 7 and 9, and the 7 and 9 year old are 18 months apart. Even if they could be on the same teams (which is sometimes possible), I actually don't want them to be because one will outshine the other, and it can cause issues. Plus, it is important, as they get older, that they have things of their own, which being on different teams, even in the same sport, allows them to do.

And the 4 year old - he won't be doing anything extracurricular for forever, basically. Too many balls to juggle. We pass on lots of things now - parties and such - because we are already so busy with extracurriculars (and the kids aren't even doing that many!). I want family time, and social stuff is the first to get knocked down the priority list when I have to choose.

Three is wonderful. I wouldn't change it. But it is a lot more than 2, and it is definitely getting harder, not easier, as they age. We both work full-time and have never had a nanny.[/quote]

That's really terrible you place a priority on the two older ones and basically neglect the youngest.  [/quote]

DP, but this PP clarified that she didn't literally mean the four year old would never do activities, just that he wasn't doing them at age four (I misunderstood, too, but didn't have the same level of negative reaction you did).  I think it's completely reasonable to make the trade-off of having a third kid but not starting extracurriculars until they're a little older.  We did the same, minus swimming lessons which are a safety thing.[/quote]

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