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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hear you. [b]I had my baby at 41. I thought she’d come a lot earlier but I got married at 32 then went to grad school and started a new career then we had fertility issues. I am so incredibly thankful I got the opportunity to be a mother that I don’t even think about my age. [/b]Sure I wish she’d come around a few years earlier but it doesn’t really matter. And there are all the positives others have said. It’ll be fine![/quote]

This is me. I was just so thankful to become a mom at 42 and it really helped with the attitude with which I approached the majority of highs, lows, and the more often in-betweens. Every milestone I was fairly confident would be my last as a mom, so I really tried to appreciate it all.

I had friends who had children when they were younger and they were absolutely mystified as to why I never complained or resented the upside-down that my life had become. I just never felt the need to complain and found the energy from somewhere. All moms do.

I think the issue is that as others have said 35 isn't old especially for this area. Even now I am not the oldest mom at my DC's elementary. And as a 40 something with an elementary kid you won't be either. There is no perfect time, but once you get into your mid-30s or 40s it's not like you can go back and do-over. You just keep pushing ahead from where you are.

Where you may notice it most is on your child's youth league teams. But even there the big tell isn't in the moms it's the 40/50 something dads versus the 30 something dads. I was once fairly athletic and am still in decent shape but I don't feel the pressure to get out there and give it my all. Some of the dads do move more like grandpas, but who cares? They are all at the point in their careers where they can actually show up at the 5 pm practices and the kids themselves don't seem to notice or care. They are just happy to have Dad there.

Enjoy the early years, it goes fast and before you know it your kids don't really want you around anyway so it doesn't really matter how old you were when you had them. [/quote]

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