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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I understand where your husband is coming from.  Do you truly have an infant?  As in four weeks old?  In that case, disregard.  I am more surprised you can work with the lack of sleep.

A typical baby sleeps at least 4-5 hours during the work day.  You’re saying you work PT.  Isn’t PT 4-5 hours?  You should have a 2 hour nap stretch in the morning and another 2-3 in the PM.  You say you’re interrupted by feeding.  Except for cluster feeding, which is very early on and typically early evenings, the child should be on more of a schedule and feed every 2-3 hours.  Again, enough time for you to work.

I had a baby and hired a nanny because I was supposed to.  Until my child was walking, it wasn’t really necessary.  There was a time window in the morning when I often had meetings and used the nanny.  Besides that, it was easy to have the child on a playmat, carrier or the child was sleeping.  It was kind of a waste and awkward having the nanny there with so little to do.  I remember I hired a cleaner for the first time and during maternity leave it was comical because the only thing I Did was go on a walk when my cleaner was at my house.  I could have easily cleaned with the baby but had been so scared precooked into ordering frozen dishes and having cleaners lined up.

There is a reason babies don’t do much - they haven’t developed and people couldn’t have additional kids if a baby was truly a FT job.  Unless you have a child with a developmental disorder or illness, it’s not that hard.  Get your kid on a schedule, naps aren’t optional and be religious about sleep.  Once you’re strict with a schedule, it’s pretty easy.  I mean a baby sleeps every afternoon!  I’d love my child to now take afternoon naps.

Or maybe you’re back at work at four weeks but I didn’t catch that from your post. [/quote]

OP here. I worked 3 8 hour days. My baby doesn’t take a 2 and a 2-3 hour nap. He takes 4 naps a day, with 3 naps while I’m working. He’s up for 90 minutes, down for 90 minutes. He eats every 3 hours.

It’s still hard. He sleeps at night but many babies still wake up at night at this age.

He likes to play. He is not happy just being put on a play mat. [/quote]

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