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[quote=Anonymous] Op, I am in the process of divorce. Seperation is not a thing in my state. We are still in the marital home, he is buying out my equity. I'm not leaving until that is complete and also we've signed our dc's custody papers. We have a 6yo, plus adult dc who of course are not part of custody.

It's...ok. For us, we have been amicable, almost oddly so-it's like deciding to divorce took the pressure off DH to fix his crap, he doesn't have to face himself. I feel mostly relief at the divorce process. We are pretty much in agreement with everything, 50/50 is standard here and he wants it and really, should have it-he's a good dad.

So, I sleep on the sofabed and dc does too although they have a room. No dining room table dinners but I will set the kitchen bar counter for us. I fold his laundry still-he's been gracious about it- and he still checks the fluid/air/oil levels in my car and maintains them, and I'm gracious about it. Fair trade.

I have not packed up stuff yet, and 6yo does not know (the adult kids do). Because I do not know my move out date, I can't rent something (I pay half mortgage here until closing) so it's too vague yet for dc to understand. I don't even understand why it's taking so long, we both have lawyers!  Anyhow, I have been cleaning out closets and drawers and have been mentally planning what I want to take. We don't have anything of particular value (no art or jewelery or expensive stuff) so it will be dividing mostly everyday items.

I very much want my own space with dc, but I'm staying calm and surviving until then. I don't get emotional or angry at dh anymore because I literally do not care. [/quote]

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