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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is an interesting topic, I'm not here yet with my kids but cannot fathom not being involved. My parents only provided the cc# as some mentioned. They had no clue what I wrote in my apps but I took them seriously. They didn't even tell me where to apply, I was aiming low until a teacher asked and suggested I aim higher. I am thankful they put that idea in my head.[/quote]

So how involved do you think you'll be? My parents took me on tours and handed over the credit card, but everything else was my doing. It would have felt weird to ask them for help, although I guess I could have. But I was raised by parents who had high expectations about where we'd go to college, surrounded by other kids whose parents also had high expectations. [/quote]

This is the thing that people who say "0" may not be acknowledging--the whole life we've had with our kids does a lot of preparation for this.  Our schools offer practice PSATs, give days off for them, they have been around educated adults and all their peers are going to be educated, their schools talk about the process, their teachers might work with them on their essays, they get tips from their friends on where to apply, tour etc.  We don't have to be quite as involved because we've set them up in an environment that makes it relatively easy and natural.  (I still am personally involved though--about a 2.5 I'd say--I suggested places to tour, I drove them there and accompanied, I discussed ED/EA strategies, I was a sounding board for essays and I helped them plan for and then TBH nag, nag, nag about deadlines).  I think it's important to encourage your kids to ask for help.  In my view, reasonable, sensible. and more likely to be successful adults are willing to ask for help/advice on novel tasks.  Over the years I've supervised many more folks who erred by doing things independently without clarifying guidance than I have people who ask for too much help.  The latter might be more annoying in the moment but usually chill out, but the former cause a lot more problems in the long run.[/quote]

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