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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know, op, I’ve noticed that many men regard women as “lashing out” when they express any form of anger. 
Just recently we had a bad experience with a Lowes subcontractor.  I wanted to sort it out that day and my husband wanted to “give them time”. He wasn’t at the house to talk to the vendor and see just how bad the subcontractor was (it was a consult so no physical damage for him to see), and I wanted to let Lowes know how terrible their sub was, and that if Lowes would like to keep our business, I needed another contractor.

He and I argued some, and I do remember me saying “If you don’t want to get this done, let’s sell the f**cking house”. 
That woke him up and we went to Lowes.

I became concerned when the guy at Lowes tried to tell me I couldn’t write a bad review because if I did, it would trickle down to him. The guy was great, switched us to another sub, but I wanted Lowes management to know what was going on.  Its not 1980, writing gets more attention, and well, it was my right to write about an experience I had with one of their subs.

On the way home, my husband said I was being b**chy for threatening to write a bad review. 
I thought about that some, and the next day I told him that I’ve discovered writing publicly about an experence gets a lot of positive attention, note, I wasn’t asking for free anything.  I also didn’t think it was appropriate for a business to try and silence me.  I told him that if the guy got fired because of a bad review (a review where I also praised him for assigning us to another sub), that was a screwed up culture, but that it wasn’t my problem.  I told my husband thad that this was all in the context of business, it wasn’t like I was mad at my kid’s boyfriend who just happened to work at Lowes, or that a friend in his off time had suggested a contractor and the friend just happned to work at Lowes, this was all in the context of business I was trying to do with Lowes.  I explained to my husband that I wouldnt be silenced nor would I do business with a company that thought silencing me (I was the only woman around) was appropriate.

All this got him to see my point.

I strongly believe that had my husband and his brother gone to Lowes, he’d not have said a word if his brother had said “you know, I need to publicly review this place”. Men don’t usually do that to each other.

All this to say, [b]Im not convinced your wife can’t control her emotions, you simply don’t like it when she speaks loudly or says anything you don’t want to hear or that may make your life difficult. [/b]

I see that she’s an ex, or almost one, and either way, you’ve ended the relationship.  So long as she isn’t destroying your property or witholding the kids, you don’t get to tell her to only use nice words. This isn’t third grade.  
If you need to, get a very rigid custody plan and maybe even a paretning cordinator involved. You’re allowed to do that. 
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Holy smokes.  Way to make this all about you.

Also, you're not convinced based on what?  Your own life?  Stereotypes?  Good lord.  [/quote]

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