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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sister was emotionally and physically abused by her husband. She had an affair that gave her the confidence to leave. I think it was not only justified but necessary.  Assume people other than the Taliban and the anti-cheating fanatics on here would agree[/quote]

And if he found out he would have killed her.0[/quote]

He did and he didn't, but thanks for trying to shame her, Mr. Taliban.[/quote]

Come on.  About the riskiest thing you can do is get caught cheating if your spouse is a psychopath, physically abusive.  She’s lucky she didn’t get caught and got out.  But, yes, he’s awful and I would still have left before that.  Didn’t she confide in yiu about the abuse?  Didn’t you try to help her?[/quote]

I knew about the emotional abuse but not the physical until she divorced. She was too embarrassed to share that part and I would have intervened. I tried to help her leave before but she had zero confidence, had gained weight, and saw herself as someone not worthy of love. I really think her affair helped her see herself in a better light.[/quote]

This was me too. The affair was my only source of strength. He made me feel loved and valued. It was only when the affair ended that I felt the full impact of being alone, and that hurts like hell.[/quote]

I get damaged people do damaged things. But you get it’s not a good reason or justification.

I was too lame, emeralds, insecure to get help in a healthy way so I did something horrible.[/quote]

I do get it. There is justice in being forced to drink your own poison. What I meant was at the time I was so gaslit and mentally tortured that I was actually unsure of reality or what a normal relationship was like anymore; the affair even though it was an affair was comparatively healthy and lit the way out.[/quote]

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