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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To me this is a no brainer. I would say funeral because it's the funeral because it's the funeral of a direct family member and family comes first.

You yourself may not have been close to your grandmother but whichever one of your parents just lost their parent I'm sure are going to want to be surrounded by their children.

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+1  I would be mortified to tell people that I chose to go to a wedding over my grandmother's funeral.  It speaks loads to a lack of character to go to a wedding rather than your grandmother's funeral.  Sheesh.  How is this even a question!?![/quote

I am not the OP but dear lord simmer down. If the majority of people are giving the same response which very rarely happens on DCUM then maybe you need to look at your reasoning.

It's not just a wedding. It's her very best friend and she had a major role in the wedding  a role that she already committed to. So no I don't think the answer is obvious in this case. If OP was invited as just a guest and it was just a regular friend and she didn't have a role in the wedding my answer would most definitely be the funeral.

If your read her post it appears she is super close to her friend but not close to her grandma. She said she plans on sending a nice bouquet of flowers to the funeral home and attending the wake. Her grieving parent will still be grieving before and after the funeral thus OP has many opportunities to sit with her grieving parent and comfort them the funeral isn't the only place to do that.

Where as most likely her best friend only has one MOH and one wedding day.

Also you have to keep in mind many people prefer to be around happy settings and become very uncomfortable in sad or upsetting situations. Their feelings matter too.

I know this will sound harsh but life still goes on. People can't expect that when someone dies everyone's other commitments they already made have to stop.

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