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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel you OP. It’s like all the reserves I had that got me through the hustle and bustle of being a working mom just got absolutely depleted. Things are quasi-normal, but my gas tank hasn’t been refilled. I thought I was a fairly energetic/resilient person before. I used to get up at 5:30 am to exercise. Was always tackling house projects. Volunteered at my kids’ school. Etc. And now it takes every ounce of energy I have to do the minimum at work, keep the kids fed/bathed, meal plan, not fall too far behind at laundry. And this is with DH doing more than his share around the house. I am in therapy, but it feels like one more thing to do and I have no idea how to get back to the person I was before COVID. I was such a better mom before March 2020.[/quote]

I am in the same boat. I think I’m experiencing deep burn out and don’t know how to recover. [/quote]

This is OP again. I both appreciate the commiseration and worry a little for all of us (and feel some remaining simmering resentment about how mothers (and some fathers) were expected not only to do it all during the pandemic but also, and this is the kicker for me, to be just fine immediately and seamlessly when the worst subsided).

I have decided to really lean into doing nothing. I forget where I heard it, but something to the effect that - the end of the revolution is not a woman who works but a woman who is well-rested... It just feels like the only way back to something is nothing--quiet, sleep, decent food, moving a bit, rest again. It is surprisingly challenging for me even to get 7 hours of (relatively) uninterrupted sleep, which was my first "goal"... (BTW, I am only setting "goals" these days not [i]goals [/i]!)

And because I can't entirely turn my type A brain off, I have been "looking into" this whole idea.  Liked the Gretchen Rubin blog (thanks for the suggestion PP) about how it takes energy to actually go to sleep, https://gretchenrubin.com/2013/02/epiphany-it-takes-a-lot-of-energy-to-decide-to-go-to-bed. And reading about revenge scrolling, https://betterhumans.pub/how-i-stopped-revenge-scrolling-and-upgraded-my-habits-343edd6d7f62, and thinking about the link between the two.[/quote]

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