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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Perfectly fair to be "very busy with life" for a bit and feel her out over time, if you want. Sometimes people who are, hmm, very volatile (I am trying to avoiding specific diagnoses here) are very charming and convincing early on, but can't maintain it. That volatility and push-me-pull-you interaction often comes with a history of child abuse. Why not see how it goes, if you have any tug to get reacquainted? Take it slow. Note whether she seems to respect boundaries or push them. Pay attention to whether she seems to pick up on any discomfort if you are feeling pushed and backs away, or if she makes you more uncomfortable. Let it develop, if you go this route. Think old-fashioned train ride back to friendship, not jetspeed.[/quote] This is excellent advice for a relationship you care about continuing. For the person you describe, OP, this would be too much work for me. Do whatever will make you feel best and be good for your health. [/quote]
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