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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It depends on the man and the situation. Some women on DCUM seem to want to categorize all cheaters in one camp. That they all have the same end game and cheat for the same reason. It doesn’t work like that. For some men, they just want more sex. For other men, they want out of their marriages and they are open to a reason to leave.

Some men I’ve known cheat because they can. For them, men are only as faithful as their opportunities. They have the ability to cheat and largely not get caught. They cheat because new sex is hot for most men and they can. They don’t necessarily want to leave their wife/children, so they cheat instead of leave and divorce.

Some men are just living and meet someone they want more. They are complacent in the marriage, but probably wouldn’t marry the same woman again. They don’t leave, because things aren’t terrible, but they are easily lead astray when someone better comes along. These men don’t affair down, they affair up to someone they perceive is better - younger, more attractive, isn’t a habitual nag, sex positive, brings in an income. This is how I started with DH. We met, quickly fell in love, he told his wife that month he was leaving her, and they were divorced 8 months later. They didn’t have kids and he walked away with all this assets. He just didn’t want to be married to his X anymore. [/quote]
I have honestly never seen a man that, at least on the surface, has affair-ed up. But I have met many OW who think that they have. [/quote]

I have. 3 times. And they all married the OW. Those marriages are not 15+ years and outlasted the first marriages.[/quote]

I was that full of myself OW. He divorced his 1st wife after 5 years of marriage. I was 25 when he married me. He cheated on me, too after 15 years together. We are now divorcing and he will remarry for 3rd time. 
With a divorced man never say never. Those who divorced once take cheating and another divorce easier, they are often incapable of forming deep family attachment to anyone. 
They just marry a woman that fits their physical, emotional or financial needs at that stage of their life. The needs change - the wives change, too. [/quote]

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