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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.
Thank you all for your comments (and for reading my vent).

Sometimes I think it’s a socioeconomic thing, too. My colleagues who worked their way up from less money have parents who are so so proud that they are doctors. Therefore, their parents don’t mess with them. Other female colleagues have mothers who had demanding jobs, and are understanding. I’m in a weird netherworld where we were UMC and my mom was a SAHM. My becoming a doctor was no big deal - a few of my moms’s friends sons are doctors - but my mom doesn’t have any professional experience and will say things like “you should just refuse to go to work! Tell them you have to some time with your family!”  [b]And two of her friends sent me mail (on notecards decorated with flowers) telling me I should quit my job “temporarily” in the middle of covid to take care of my dad[/b]. I’ll tell you this much, I’m sure none of their sons would ever EVER get a note like that.

Covid times have been awful for everyone, though. So I try to be understanding. But the dog comment made me lose it.[/quote]

I'm sorry, OP.  I recognize this kind of behavior and IME, these kind of people will never be satisfied.  Like my MIL.  She looks down on women who SAH as lazy, but she complains that people don't drop everything from their busy jobs when she needs them.  She's always reading about awards in the paper and asking her kids "why don't you have XYZ award" or "why don't you have this professional accolade that my friend's son has?", but then she's simultaneously complaining that they work too hard and need to spend more time with their family.   So, we're supposed to both work hard and have professional success that she can brag about, but yet have jobs with unlimited flexibility that we can just decide not to do whenever we feel like it?  Got it.

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What the what what what???[/quote]

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