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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a fifty-two yr. old F.

I had a friend as a young girl, from about 2nd grade &gt; 8th.
In a nutshell - she was a bully the entire time. Especially during our later yrs. as friends.
She was very popular with our peers and could get people to turn on me in a heartbeat. Which she did quite often.
She used this to her advantage time and time again. She used me to shoplift items for her for example, claiming that if I didn’t then she would spread rumors about me around school.
She used to steal my lunch every day at school and would use me to carry her (heavy!) textbooks home all the time, etc.

Of course, now at my age I can see how I could have….should have told her no. But at the ages especially of 12-13 I was afraid of her power over excluding me like a pariah with my peers.
Anyhow she contacted me last wknd and seemed delighted to finally reunite. She said she had horrible parents and that her home life was very abusive. She apologized briefly to me for anything bad she must have done as kids and said she wished she could take it all back.
She seemed very mature, kind and we laughed at a lot of the crazy kid things that we both used to do.

[b]I know she is not the same person she used to be and that over time, she has matured and mellowed out.
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However to be truthful the hurt still remains.
She is suggesting we meet up so we can reminisce about our “precious” childhood memories some more, but in all honesty I would rather not.
A lot of my memories with her are very painful and she hurt me a lot.

-&gt;&gt; Am I bring unreasonable??[/quote]

The bolded shows that you have not changed much :-)

You don't know that she has changed. I bet you that she has not.

I would not go. Make up an excuse. Be polite and gracious. Accept her apology and truly forgive her. But I tell you, most people don't change much after 12. They really don't. The core of a person is usually already formed by this age. There are exceptions of course. But you don't owe this person a second chance. You are hesitating; don't go![/quote]

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