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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, as someone who works in adolescent psych, your feelings are pretty normal at this point. You are dealing with a deeply traumatized child who is making terrible decisions (because of their trauma) and ending up even more traumatized.  The child is acting out their trauma in a lot of ways, and some of them are aimed at you.  She's not your child, so of course you're resenting it.  (Birth parents are often resentful of that kind of behavior, too, and they're often responsible for the original trauma.)

Therapy is a good idea.  It will help you process the resentment so that you can feel more at peace. It will help you brainstorm ideas how to remain safe while living in this extended family It will help you learn how and why this child (young adult) is acting out this way.  It will help you decide if you want to stay in this family/marriage.

Good luck.  These kids are rough to deal with. [/quote]

+1. Why should OP be expected to have a bottomless well of sympathy for a SC that caused so many problems? She's only human. I
would be resentful too, especially if the SC's behavior impacted her other children. [/quote]

The OP chose to marry into this family.  Knowing that the child had already experienced a divorce and some very serious allegations by her mother, OP should have known that trauma was a possibility and that trauma can cause serious problems with adolescents.  If OP didn't think this could happen, that's on OP.  Because she had a choice whether to join this family.[/quote]
All of this!!![/quote]

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