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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you should see someone to address your deep lack of empathy and compassion.  By your own account, your stepdaughter went through a traumatic childhood.  She may have mental health issues of her own that it doesn’t sound like anyone bothered to investigate and treat.  She was raped.  And on top of it she has to deal with a stepmother who resents the fact that she won’t disappear from the earth (and I guarantee, you are not hiding that from her nearly as well as you would like to think).  You are part of the reason the family dynamic is such a mess.  Fix your own shit before dating to pass judgment on others for theirs.[/quote]

I’m sure OP would have more sympathy if the SC hadn’t tried to put OP in jail!

As an outsider, I do feel bad for the SC. It’s not OP’s fault, but I’m sure growing up in a broken home was not great for the SC. OP, you should definitely go to therapy to figure out how to deal with your DH pushing the relationship on you. You want to maintain your boundaries but also not resent your DH.[/quote]

If SC had not tried to put OP in jail would OP at least be able to acknowledge that SC was raped?[/quote]

OP here—SC has major credibility issues and lacks moral compass. SC ended up filing a police report only after relationship was ended by the other individual claiming rape. The county wanted to take the report further and prosecute the alleged rapist, but SC didn’t want to go through with it. If someone would attempt to rape me, I would file charges and will seek prosecution. SC was upset with school reading her Google docs, but she didn’t even acknowledged me being falsely accused. Does this help?[/quote]

Wow you are a really horrible person. This poor kid has been through many traumatic experiences throughout her life. The google writings were clearly a cry for help and were private, and instead of being empathetic towards a CHILD, you care only about yourself. If I learned my stepchild had written those things about me, I would be seeking to repair and build our relationship because I obviously failed, not to create further distance. And instead of believing she has been raped, you have excuses about why it's not true. This is exactly why victims rarely come forward, and btw, most women are sexually assaulted. No wonder she's a wreck, dad married a witch and my guess is that he's totally checked out as a parent. [/quote]

Wow,  you bring some luggage to this thread.  You should work on that before giving any advice. [/quote]

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