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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Or your sisters may be trying to normalize how hard it is to be pregnant and how hard it is to be a new mother. Just because you've TTC for a long time doesn't mean that you aren't allowed to feel fat and/or exhausted during pregnancy or that you aren't allowed to feel exhausted/overwhelmed/depressed postpartum. There are aspects of being a new mom that are hard for everyone and it's all new, which is also a challenge.

Be happy that they aren't telling you "I thrived during those sleepless nights with Larlo... I lived for her needing me 24/7 when it was difficult to go for a walk or take a shower. I barely noticed when my breasts were painful and engorged, my clothes didn't fit, and a huge maxi pad felt like a permanent part of my outfit."

I have two (pregnant with #3) and was one of the first in my friend group to have kids. I totally try to normalize how difficult it is to my friends - not because I want them to be like "OMG, this sucks/this is so hard." Not at all. I want to normalize that it's OK to be sad/frustrated/depressed/overwhelmed/stressed during an incredibly difficult time for many. You are taking care of a helpless baby, recovering from pregnancy/childbirth, sleep deprived, and your hormones are all out of whack. No one is going to love every moment and the point is that it's ok not to love every moment! [/quote]

But I don’t feel fat. I lost the weight 2 weeks pp when the fluids drained out. I’m not exhausted.[b] The baby slept in five hour stretches and only woke one time and night since coming home from the hospital[/b]. He also has a great latch so no breastfeeding problems. I’m not overwhelmed or depressed.

[b]I think moms complain too much. It’s really not that hard. It’s a lot of sitting around nursing while I watch tv or play on the Internet. It’s kind of boring.[/b] [/quote]

Is this the same OP who said "they ask about me and the baby and I say she was up all night they'll say they remember that phase and it sucked"?  Which is it?  The baby has never woken more than once a night or it's awake all night and you're on Cloud 9 about it anyway?

This is either a troll or a person who needs a PPD screening, stat.[/quote]

I'm the op I this is my 3rd response to this thread. I never said my daughter sleeps through the night. In fact I said the opposite in my OP, but you were so eager to be nasty to someone you didn't bother to read the thread.[/quote]

I know you said the opposite.  That's why I quoted it out to the person pretending to be you.  Get some rest.[/quote]

OP - I'm so glad things are going so well for you 7 weeks in.  The bolded comment is one of the most naive and obnoxious remarks I think I've ever seen on this board. It's great that you are not having a hard time and it sounds like you're recovering well from birth, but you have NO idea what other people who complain experience. Be grateful for your experience and enjoy it. Don't assume it's universal or that you know anything about anyone else's parenting journey. Just as you don't want your sisters doing to you.[/quote]

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