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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I wish I was like you. I had repeated miscarriages and longed for motherhood and then I had a healthy wonderful baby...and complained! :) Such is human nature (for some at least).

[b]I will say, I am surprised how much complaining about parenthood is a vernacular among parents of little kids. I wonder if it is specific to the US. We have a very imbalanced approach to parenting as part of life, imo. Like poor work-life balance except for American parents, it's poor parent-life balance.[/b][/quote]

This is exactly it.  We have little to no social safety net in the US.  And who makes up the difference? Women, particularly mothers.  WOMEN are the USA's social safety net.  They take care of children, they go to work bleeding post-miscarriage/birth, they nurse their elderly parents and their disabled family members.  WOMEN.

So yes, the complaining is just a symptom of a much bigger problem.  Well, and some of it is funny.[/quote]

Had my first outside the US in a country with a big social safety net. There was a lot of complaining about the early sleepless nights - mostly because it's a way to bond!

OP - it's great that you are genuinely feeling ok where you are. Many women don't and are afraid to admit they are struggling. Sleep deprivation and early feeding is HARD. So your sisters may be trying to create a safe space for you to admit that you are having a hard time or not feeling #blessed or #enjoyingeveryminute. It is so wonderful that you are feeling that way, but if you want to view it in the most favorable light, think that they are trying to look out for you and offer you space to vent if you needed it - rather than being disappointed you aren't.[/quote]

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