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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Or your sisters may be trying to normalize how hard it is to be pregnant and how hard it is to be a new mother. Just because you've TTC for a long time doesn't mean that you aren't allowed to feel fat and/or exhausted during pregnancy or that you aren't allowed to feel exhausted/overwhelmed/depressed postpartum. There are aspects of being a new mom that are hard for everyone and it's all new, which is also a challenge.

Be happy that they aren't telling you "I thrived during those sleepless nights with Larlo... I lived for her needing me 24/7 when it was difficult to go for a walk or take a shower. I barely noticed when my breasts were painful and engorged, my clothes didn't fit, and a huge maxi pad felt like a permanent part of my outfit."

I have two (pregnant with #3) and was one of the first in my friend group to have kids. I totally try to normalize how difficult it is to my friends - not because I want them to be like "OMG, this sucks/this is so hard." Not at all. I want to normalize that it's OK to be sad/frustrated/depressed/overwhelmed/stressed during an incredibly difficult time for many. You are taking care of a helpless baby, recovering from pregnancy/childbirth, sleep deprived, and your hormones are all out of whack. No one is going to love every moment and the point is that it's ok not to love every moment! [/quote]

But I don’t feel fat. I lost the weight 2 weeks pp when the fluids drained out. I’m not exhausted.[b] The baby slept in five hour stretches and only woke one time and night since coming home from the hospital[/b]. He also has a great latch so no breastfeeding problems. I’m not overwhelmed or depressed.

I think moms complain too much. It’s really not that hard. It’s a lot of sitting around nursing while I watch tv or play on the Internet. It’s kind of boring. [/quote]

Is this the same OP who said "they ask about me and the baby and I say she was up all night they'll say they remember that phase and it sucked"?  Which is it?  The baby has never woken more than once a night or it's awake all night and you're on Cloud 9 about it anyway?

This is either a troll or a person who needs a PPD screening, stat.[/quote]

I'm the op I this is my 3rd response to this thread. I never said my daughter sleeps through the night. In fact I said the opposite in my OP, but you were so eager to be nasty to someone you didn't bother to read the thread.[/quote]

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