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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We had kids later than a lot of our friends and the ones who follow the Instagram-style very modern parenting techniques have poorly behaved kids, to the point we don’t get together with them with their kids cuz it’s annoying AF. One set of friends in particular are very strict yet empathetic and their kids are angels. We are definitely going the stricter route. [/quote]

What the hell is "Instagram-style very modern parenting techniques"?

I am starting to think that a lot of people are assuming that super permissive parenting is a "new fad" and not just the same old crappy parenting that's always been around. There have always been lazy, permissive parents who are too disinterested or bored to set boundaries or enforce rules. And their kids have always run a little (someones a lot) wild and annoyed everyone else. This has been happening forever.

The main difference I see now is that we have culturally cracked down on people on the other end of the spectrum, parents who are incredibly controlling and cruel to their kids. We have have laws and social mores that makes this harder to do, and people will more openly judge this as abusive, which is what it is. But guess what, super permissive parenting is neglectful, which is a form of abuse. And again, it's always been happening.

There is not actually a newfangled approach to parenting that involves letting your kids do whatever they want and never parenting them. Most people I know follow some variation of the prevailing wisdom of the day, which is that kids need boundaries and structure, but also you should be nice to your kids and treat them respectfully (i.e. not berate them or yell at them). Some people are better at it than others, some kids respond better or worse than others, but I don't really feel like any of my friends or siblings is some outlier. This is the prevailing wisdom on parenting right now, and it's not super permissive at all. Kids lives are pretty structured and a lot is expected of them, in my experience.[/quote]

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