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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][/quote]When I talk to fellow officials over in UK the shortage is even worse there, and the abuse problem is worse too. Stopping the abuse won't solve the problem this year or next. It will take a few years of young referees coming in, having a positive experience, and staying with it long enough to get good at it before the shortage turns around. Almost all referees are not good their first couple years, we have to give them a chance to learn and get good.

Honestly, in years of two kids playing, I have only seen a parent be abusive to a ref once. It was not someone from our team, thankfully, but the person's behavior was outrageous. I've seen parents indicate disagreement with calls from the sidelines, but as long as they are not rude, that's not what I would consider abuse. It could be that many refs do not like that aspect of the job, the same way that many lawyers hate cranky judges and obnoxious opposing counsel. But, addressing that behavior, within limits, is part of the job.

I am not a ref, I am a parent, but come on. At the rates they are paid, refs should not have to deal with any words from parents. I haven't been to a game in years where parents have not yelled at the refs. Maybe it doesn't rise to the level of "abuse" in your mind but it's unpleasant for everyone. The fact that parents are completely biased and quite ignorant makes the situation worse but isn't the main issue. The issue is that most parents are like you and feel entitled to complain from the sidelines. WHY??? Why do you want this at your child's game?! Just don't abuse, yell, or talk to refs. You people are driving away the good refs and all the future refs as well. My kids have shown interest in reffing and I have discouraged them because ... I don't want them around you people.[quote]

Ok, so at the rate I am paid as a middle school teacher, I think that, as a moral matter, I should not have to deal with attitude from many of my students or drama from their parents.  But, this is not reality.  [/quote]

You absolutely should not have to deal with attitude from students and even less should you have to deal with drama from their parents. And if you're my kid's teacher you will never have "drama" from me ever, certainly not over anything so inconsequential as a missed offside call. And I'll be livid if I learn that my kids have been disrespectful toward their teachers.

That said, middle school teachers are under much less scrutiny than refs whose every move is watched and judged. Also, it's youth soccer for goodness sake.[/quote]

I agree. Parents are not allowed in the schools during class. Hence, they are not yelling at the teachers while the teacher is teaching class unlike referees. Also, a student can be sent straight to the principal’s office if they are out of line. Parents yelling/abusing at a teacher after school will be reported to the police. [/quote]

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