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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do you care OP? Just get divorced already. What are getting out of this dance? [/quote]

+1.  My partner did this and I invested way too much energy in wondering why.  The bottom line is that despite having 2 kids with the guy, I didn’t want to live with someone who cheated on me under any circumstances - especially not someone who doubled down and lied to me about it.

It doesn’t matter why he did it and there’s no rationality to it any way.  I could go on now about how he grew up with an alcoholic mother who was in and out of rehab and as such, although his physical needs for food and shelter were met, how emotional needs were neglected. How the entire family learned to lie about what was really going on with mom’s alcoholism in order to present the facade of a nice family. How he was also probably driven in part by hypomanic hypersexuality from as yet to be diagnosed bipolar, etc., etc.  But really, understanding the why doesn’t change anything.  I don’t want to live like that.  Kids or no kids none of us have to or deserve to live like that.  Infidelity is a serious form of relationship abuse, and as difficult as my life has been since the sp,it, there is not a single day that is worse than when we were together.

It was also better for my kids to be raised with me in an emotionally healthy environment.

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