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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I used to think I was nicer. I n ow realize I was codependent. I had poor boundaries and would do anything for anyone searching for approval. Now I have boundaries and am there for my family and those who mean the most to me. I am less of a people pleaser. I can smell manipulation and I run.[/quote]I think you're confusing co-dependency with being nice. I posted upthread about being happy in my 60s. I was also very co-dependent when I was younger. Learning to set boundaries actually allowed me to be nicer towards other people. I can be nice to them and not fall for their craziness and and not play along. I can have compassion for the addicts I know but not let them run my life. Whereas in the past I was so caught up in taking care of people, I looked on the outside like a nice person but I was seething inside. Anyway, here's to setting boundaries, pp! You rock![/quote]
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