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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those of you making fun of this, my kid goes to a DCPS and one of his friends mouthed off to an upper-classman two years ago (Pre-covid).  He was beaten up pretty badly the next day--pushed down and pummeled in the gut and head by a group of kids.  My kid got hauled in to testify about what went down.

This stuff definitely happens in some schools.  Just maybe not in your bubble.  [/quote]

DP:  This stuff does, indeed, happen. Which is why it is an extremely important survival skill for kids to have the social skills and the self control and the judgement to not mouth off at anyone, let alone someone bigger, or whose ability to retaliate is unknown.  The OP has carefully avoided describing what her son said, and that’s fine. That leaves open the possibility that he’s a bully with poor judgement who seriously overstepped some very basic lines.  We also don’t know what his apology was like, but “ooh, my bad. Sorry” would be completely inadequate if he said something truly offensive, personal, and public.

I agree with the suggestions about seeking help from the guidance office and school administrators.  There might be a Restorative Justice program available that would address the harm done by the OP’s son, develop a plan including mutually agreed upon consequences, and help the other kid save face and feel that his needs are being seen and addressed.

I’m very concerned about what measures the OP plan to put in place to help a kid who would mouth off at another kid “known to carry knives” (really?) develop age-appropriate judgement and self-control. If this is his first month in a new school, unless something changes, the OP’s son has potentially set himself up for an extremely difficult 4 years.

- Someone who has actively participated in school based crisis intervention plans. [/quote]

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