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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

I use my middle name. I use it professionally a lot because my name is otherwise pretty common, and I also use it because I like it. So I guess I am biased because my own middle name is important to me, and I failed to give my son one that could be important to him.

When I say we will use it, what I mean is that I currently refrain from using my son's middle name unless forced to for administrative purposes. I never call him by that name and don't write it down anywhere ever.

If we changed it, I'd do things like put it in the title of the photo books we make for him periodically, use it more in school paperwork, make sure he knows what it is. And, if like me he ever wanted or needed to use it professionally, I would be happy to see him using his full name. Right now, if he ever decided to go by his first and middle name for any reason, I think it would give me a little pang of sadness. Not a big deal, I know, but I don't want to feel sad when I see my son's name.[/quote]

I understand that feeling of regret, and it's hard, but [b]all the reasons above are about you rather than your child.[/b][/quote]

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This is all about you.  It's his name, and he's not a baby anymore.  It's about him now.  [/quote]

Curious what the cut off is, then. Would it be okay to change a 1 year old's middle name? What about a 4 year old?

Not being facetious, genuinely curious. I think in this case it's unorthodox but okay because the kid doesn't know his middle name yet and has not expressed interest in it one way or another.

I would feel very differently about a first name.[/quote]

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