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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]hm..

chef, driver, nanny, cleaning lady, nurse, personal organizer, personal shopper, secretary, tutor, coach, psychologist, nutritionist, teacher, event planer, etc... quite expensive.[/quote]

Even when the SAHM is lousy at all?[/quote]

Well, yes, to a degree.  Because the vast majority of SAHMs really care about and know their children in a way that most hired help never could.  So it would be almost impossible to 'hire' someone to be a 'mom'.  Having a staff of 4-8 people to do the job that a SAHM does, regardless of what you paid them to do it, would never be able to replicate what the SAHM does b/c she is the executive in addition to being the staff.  The executive is the person who has the big picture and vision.  This is what I most fear would suffer should I die while our dc are young.  My dh, bless his heart, either pays no attention to important details or else pays too much attention to insignificant details and if, god forbid, I get sick, you would think the sky will fall if dh needs to take off time off.  He has no time for this stuff b/c he is completely consumed by his business.  Which is usually fine, b/c I don't mind.  But don't tell me that my job can be hired out or that wohm don't either delegate more to their dh, cleaning service or nanny or else have incredibly flexible jobs that allow for plenty of time to do things during the day or flex time. For example, even if after my untimely demise my dh were to hire 24/7 live in nanny coverage with a nanny who cooked and cleaned, he would also need to hire a house manager to pay attention to and organize routine maintenance such as HVAC inspections, chimney cleaning, appliance repair, etc. The nanny would need to be responsible for meal planning and preparation and grocery shopping.  The nanny would need to manage, plan and implement all health care related needs of the children: check ups, dental visits, etc. as well as stay aware of and informed about and advocate for dc educational progress and needs as well as keep dh informed of all events that may require his attendance: conferences, plays, musicals, etc.  Birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, funerals, all gifts, notes, acknowledgements, social engagements and obligations of any kind for both adults and children.  Holiday decorating, celebrations, traditions.   Summer planning, vacations, holidays, weekend outings, sports tryouts, games, team selection....you know what I mean, right?

Most couples I know who both wohm delegate these tasks evenly between them and/or rely more on outside help to get them done.  Family where one parents sah or works very part time have the 'luxury' of having a parent who can focus more energy on career and one who can focus more energy on home and family.  Because let's face it, somethings gotta give.  Do families where one parents sah do things more thoroughly or more carefully or with more detail and planning b/c they are not trying to meet work obligations as well?  Probably.  I'm sure that some families are better at balancing that others, both due to the types of jobs the parents have, the dynamics of their relationship and the personalities, strengths and needs of the parents and children.  But the executive functioning of a family usually falls to the mom, who usually is the one to sah.  In my case, my dh has had his nose to the grindstone in his career and I have worried about everything else.  If there is an issue he needs to pay attention to with the kids, I tell him what it is and he does, but in his mind, no news is good news.  He had better remarry pronto or else his family will go to hell in a handbasket should I cease to be.  [/quote]

this is so sad to me.  I always love the SAHM argument that they take care of things like chimney cleaning and dentist appointments.  How often do those things happen?  You don't work in case the chimney needs cleaning?
Also, the line "keep DH informed of all the events that may require his attendance" - seriously?  Are you his assistant or his wife?[/quote]

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