Reply to Struggling in longterm relationship with attraction

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Struggling in longterm relationship with attraction"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stability is boring. Why can't the Millennials handle stability in their relationships?[/quote]

OP here. You're clearly not reading the thread. Stability is what I want! The stability of what was displayed as the package offered when we met. Frequent uninhibited sex, an effort in appearance, in working out to look the best one can, in being well read and conversational, etc. That was what is always "marketed" during the dating phase but then suddenly a year later its like an evolution where "comfort" and "love" mean a lack of trying and effort. What's the point if we're not (all of us) getting a little better each and every day?[/quote]

OP- keep moving on. Honestly, there may be someone out there that “gets a little better each day.”  it sounds exhausting to me, but you are the driven type, so go for it!  Find a woman who agrees with you on this, there must be someone out there.  
If you are open to it, you may also want to try therapy to figure out why you aren’t enough and why you need to always be better than yourself.  Of course, we all want to learn about the world and our selves, but there is a difference between becoming  “better” and learning how to manage and deal with different situations and being curious to learn more.[/quote]

OP here. Fine, let's walk back the standard of "getting better" each and every day. Why not retain and continue to "bring" what you advertised as who you are during the dating phase of the relationship early on? Like that makes no sense to me. It seems inauthentic. If you advertise yourself as interested in frequent uninhibited sex and that you put an effort into staying fit and your appearance more generally why would you do that for 6 months and then slowly fade that out? That seems highly unethical to me.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics