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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Let me just say that I’m 41 and it took me years to be able to stand up to my own mother and ignore her bullsh**. I’m finally at a place where I just ignore and move on. I don’t think you can understand until you’ve had a parent like one of these.[/quote]

Yep. If you don't have a family filled with bullsh*t and drama, you don't know what it's like.

My mom was actually better than the rest of her family but she never learned what boundaries are. Sometimes it's best to go along and get along so there isn't drama for the next ten years. [/quote]

There’s only “drama for ten years” if you continue to allow bullies to be part of your life. I have a steamroller of a cousin that I’ve cut off completely. If we happen to be at the same wedding or whatever, I ignore her or just nod and smile. I blocked her from my phone and social media. If another cousin tries to tell me what she said about me or did or started with someone else, I simply say, “I don’t care what Jill is doing.”

If you don’t want drama, don’t allow dramatic people to be part of your life. [/quote]

I did this with cousins and aunts. I did not want to basically cut off my parents, so I moved and distanced myself. We still had drama over the holidays, but that was the only time I had to deal with it and I didn't have to completely cut off my failing elderly parents.

To each their own. Sometimes it's best to put up with a little drama and inconvenience when you know they will not live forever and you can do your own thing for the rest of your life. We are talking about MIL and mother's here, not random cousins. [/quote]

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