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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Husband also said [b]we could stop drinking entirely if I wanted that.[/b] I am considering we try that for a period of time. Would you recommend that approach as opposed to moderation? For a few weeks? Can that help confirm that he does not have an alcohol dependency as he states? I am not convinced he is an alcoholic considering there are some days when he drinks less or not at all. It seems to be worse during periods of stress. He does not think it is a problem because it doesn’t control him. Thanks for the thoughts. [/quote]

That response is one of hubris and denial. There is no way he can actually do that. So I say go for it, and see where he lands.

I've seen this on these boards before, and it's starting to ring true to me - when you start having to adopt rules of drinking, you're sunk. When it becomes something you strategize around, create boundaries for, etc. you have a problem. So the "only a bottle during the week" is doomed to fail. He already knows he wants more. That's just a way to engage in boundary setting and it won't work.

I really think I see through him because I am him. I don't drink to that excess, but I have all these rules I engage in, and they're just dumb. I very likely can't drink at all because for me, the goal posts are constantly shifting, and the rules are great until you're one or two glasses of wine in and all of a sudden you forget the rules. It's not done intentionally or maliciously. It's done because he's/I'm out of control. [/quote]

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