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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, their dad died, so I wouldn’t say it’s all been ducks and rainbows  for them. I mean, he was nothing to you, but it was till their dad.

Maybe stop competing with them. It doesn’t sound that your life has been that much of a challenge, so maybe appreciate that privilege in itself.

They haven’t had to work, much of their money comes from their dead father, but it’s not exactly like you’ve risen from being homeless now, is it?[/quote]

My dad has also passed away - his assets however are joint with my mother’s. Also, my sister’s dad bought her the house when he was still alive and working for Big Law. He left them even more when he died. Of course it feels gross to look at things this way, death should never be thought of in terms of who gets more. It was hard for all of us. Either way, combination of rich parent + husband got them a standard of living they didn’t personally earn.

To the other PP, yes, I’m privileged (not quite DCUM privilege!) in the grand scheme of things, all of us were and are. Life is generally pretty good. Maybe ultimately I wish I could get more recognition and respect among the family for being a hard worker and supporting myself, and not be teased ten years later about how I was kept on my mom’s cell phone plan in school. Again, it’s not something that comes out all the time, but my sisters still kind of regard me as spoiled and helpless (“helpless” because growing up I did lack the street smarts and life skills of Gen X latchkey kids)[/quote]

Why do you need so much external validation? You even had to qualify that you don’t have DCUM privilege. Most of DCUM doesn’t have “DCUM privilege”.

Has it occurred to you that they’re maybe teasing? Or is it that you know you were spoiled and don’t like being called out for it?

Aside from that - who cares if they’ve done well without hard work? Why do you have to do better than your half sisters anyway? Shouldn’t you be happy that they are happy?

And why do you care so much about what they think of you? “What other people think of you is nine of your business”

Sounds like you need therapy / counselling. [/quote]

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