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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, how chaotic of a home do your want? How much chaos is okay for your children to experience from day to day? How often is it okay to drop the ball on making sure your family runs well? How much confusion and anxiety do you want to inflict on your children? Because working full time means chaos, confusion and stress runs your home first and foremost. Your employer always comes first -- that's the truth. Your kids know that, but they can work it out with extensive therapy after they grow up, I guess.

Your either put your children first or yourself first. If you want well-adjusted children, you put them first. Always.[/quote]

Wow. Im not sure what you did for a living, but it's certainly not my work experience.  I have 3 kids and I've worked between 32-40 hours a week since they were born. Is it easy, somedays no. Would I change it?  No.

Childcare is the hardest part of parenting young kids. If you can get a good, reliable childcare provider, you and your children will not experience chaos, stress or need therapy because you have a job. My children have a role model who knows how to balance work and life most of the time. My children will always come first, but they are not the center of my universe. They have become independent and well rounded kids who know that their parents work but they also have their backs, always.

If your life included chaos, confusion, the inability to draw boundaries and keep a calendar, you can't apply that to all mothers and all workplaces. This is the worst advice I've read in awhile.

OP: Be healthy. Choose to work or not based on your mental health, long term plans and financial situation. Your child sometimes dictates whether you can find reliable, safe and appropriate childcare. We have na autistic son and we knew he was safest and most comfortable with a nanny.  Where do you see yourself in 5 years? Can you return to your career easily? Can you keep taking advance classes and keep moving forward?

I have friends who are the most amazing and kick a$$ say at home moms who are raising amazing humans. I have friends who work and are balancing it all with grace.   You need to figure out what works for you and your children.[/quote]

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