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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you think Gen X invented having kids in their 20s? I'm a millennial and most of my friends had kids in their 20s. [/quote]

OP here. I'm 40 so I'm on the cusp of Gen X and Millennial but I have friends who fall on both sides. We had our kids young. I had three kids by 30. I also have friends/colleagues who are 10 years younger and are just now getting married and are hoping to have their kids in their mid to late thirties. They're doing this deliberately, it's not a financial thing (which the news media seems to make the case for a lot - that millennials delay childbearing because of lack of money). I see pluses and minuses to both approaches.

What I regret is that we didn't travel more in our twenties. But honestly, we didn't really have the money or motivation. Social media didn't really exist back then and so it was harder to get ideas and itineraries for cool trips. Anyway, we had our kids when we had less money but that was ok in a way because we didn't have the money to go out and I had less FOMO. We have a lot more money now and so we travel a lot more but we bring our kids so it's mostly to kid friendly places and it's very expensive.

My Millennial friends who are delaying childbearing are very into social media so they are doing elaborate bachelorette parties, weddings, trips, with tons of photos on Instagram. Sometimes I wish I was 10 years younger so I could have done things this way too. But celebrating every little thing and living it up for the 'gram wasn't as much of a thing 15 years ago.[/quote]

People are going to say this sounds shallow and silly but I know what you mean. When I was in my twenties, people went out to dinner and a bar for a bachelorette. Maybe a day trip to a winery if you were feeling fancy. Now it's a three day trip to Vegas, Nashville, or the Caribbean. People who went to Hawaii or Italy on their honeymoon were fancy. Now they go to Bora Bora or an African safari. Same with other things that didn't really exist back then like "push presents" and "gender reveal parties." I definitely think it's been amplified by the effect of social media.[/quote]

I think the three day events for bachelor parties are a class thing. I am 41 and everyone who got married in their 20s went on three day bachelor party trips to Vegas and New Orleans. MO one had to go to Africa for their honeymoon because they had already went. This was Boston in the 2000s. I think people know about these trips now because of social media. A lot of this was pre-FB[/quote]

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