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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Neither you nor your DH are too old. I'd worry more about your other concerns, such as about your DH's availability for all his kids. But from what you say it sounds like you're aware of and prepared to manage those (and already are) so if you want a second child, I say go for it. [/quote]

52 IS old age to have a child. Sperm quality decreases with age. [/quote]
IMO it's not that just.. it's the fact that your DH would be too old to really be engaged with a young child.  My kids are teens, and DH is in his late 50s. He's fit, but he is still starting to feel it, and in a couple of years, he won't be able to keep up with our teens. My DH realizes that this was the price for having kids when he was in his 40s.

When OP's #2 is 15 her DH will almost 70.  He's more like the kid's grandfather than father, and will engage with the kid like a grandpa.

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BS. Your concerns are ableist and beyond wrong. A paralyzed dad can't play ball with his son, but he can still be a great dad. A dad in his 20s can be out of shape and have more trouble keeping up with kids than a fit 65 year old dad.[/quote]
He is still more like a grandpa than a dad.  [/quote]

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