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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It kind of sounds like DH is reminding you that you still need to keep an eye on the other kids. Leaving easily accessible medication around a toddler is unsafe. You know that OP. He's tired and irritable. I get you're fragile but good Lord [/quote]

+1. I would probably react the same way that DH did to the markers. Also, it sounds like your 2 year old doesn't use markers at all... since I my 27 month old has never tried to eat markers. You may just need to provide more supervision when introducing new things (I know you know this, you are just exhausted). And the pills, yeah, that's a hard no. Especially because they are in a case and not even in a childproof container (which you obviously still shouldn't leave within reach). That's actually a nightmare. You're lucky DH is clear headed enough to be able to see and handle these things right now, since it sounds like you're both in postpartum fog. Your other two kids still need you to care about their safety and well-being. You don't get a free pass because you have a newborn. You knew that when you were going from 2 to 3. [/quote]

Oh my goodness I hate to have to go into details but no children have been endangered. Yes my son (he's actually not quite 2 years old yet) sucked on a blue marker. I agree that's terrible and I'm sorry. So let's put them away and do them another time when I'm not focusing on BFing or older kid can do it by herself. Just him going on and on about it like I've endangered his life, and then bringing up the pill case thing from 3 days ago - the kids aren't even supposed to be in my room and anyway since then I do keep them out of reach once I wake up in AM. So no need to bring that up today again as if it's just another mark of how terrible/irresponsible mother I am.

Another example: 4 days ago I'm happily holding baby for a couple minutes after BFing before putting her down. I have my computer on the side table and am watching a movie trailer to try to find something to watch at one of my next marathon BFing sessions. DH opens the door and says, "Are you watching a show?!" I cheerfully reply yes and he leaves abruptly. I try to make no big deal out of it and so when I leave the room I talk to him normally and nicely. Then he brings up how terrible it is for me to be watching a show while holding the baby. He states I whine about not getting sleep and here I am watching a show. He calls me untrustworthy. He says I'm endangering the baby. "If the screen isn't good for our eyes, it's not good for the Baby." He accuses me of treating the baby like a burden, that I can't just hold/BF her without watching a show. I shouldn't have to explain myself here but: I am alone in the room all night with Baby, DH sleeps in living room, that way he can sleep & manage kids and I can do what I need to do with our BFing and pooping baby all night. I actually appreciate it because there's no need for DH to br woken up by baby all night and I can do what I need to do without worrying about waking him.

Surely you can see how over reactive these situations are. All I want is for DH to be more gentle and patient with me. There are better ways to express not liking something.[/quote]

OP your DH sounds stressed out. Cut him some slack and cut yourself some slack. I’m expecting my third and we have two young kids. Pregnancy has been extremely difficult so he basically does everything (plus work full time). Thankfully kids are in school now but they were virtual at home the entire year. So yes he would get stressed snd sometimes lash out at them when they made a mess. I would get upset about it but I remind myself that he’s only human. You are hormonal and busy with baby. He’s stressed and looking after two kids. Situation is stressful for both of you. So try to focus on the positive when it comes to your DH and allow yourself to cry. Also realize that he probably wants someone to be there 100% for him as well since it’s hard for him too. You will get through this OP![/quote]

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