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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get what you mean, OP.

I've been in the same boat and had that happen to me multiple times and I wonder, too. And same - I'm fit, attractive/put together, intelligent, etc. I think I might have something similar to you where I talk too much about myself/share too much too soon. Like you, not meant to be in a braggy way, but as a way to make conversation and show them who I am. But I realized I might come off as either bragging and trying to impress or just rambling on and on about stuff they're not interesting in.

So I try to make a point to make sure I'm asking them questions about themselves too. I've even gone so far as to make a list of questions I want to ask a guy so I have some go-to's if the conversation trails off. Not random weirdo questions, but just things to show him that I'm interested in getting know him and that I've been listening to things he's told me so far. [/quote]

Best answer so far and there are some great answers here. 
I think a lot of us, especially those who are single and insecure (I don’t mean insecure as a person, but insecure about being single and not hitting certain milestones or expectations) try too hard to curate a persona they want to be seen as. It’s like a live LinkedIn profile. Even when you don’t go on and on about your job - it’s like you try to build a personal brand and be like “I’m all about THIS!!!” instead of letting the you be you, being genuine and relatable and warm. [/quote]

Yes agree.

There is an “art” to it, and some people are better than others (I was terrible at dating).

But don’t get discouraged!  Just try to fine tune your dating skills.

Have you ever read the [b]“date lab” in the WaPo magazine[/b]?  It rarely seems to lead to the lasting relationship you are seeking OP.  I think dating in this area can be difficult.[/quote]

Ack!  That's a terrible example!  I think they purposely pair people who'd be incompatible to get clicks and views from the controversy.  A college friend participated some years back and the man she was paired with was AWFUL.  Her story went viral as a result, and she was humiliated.[/quote]

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