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Reply to "Never get second or third date. Why am I so easy to pass over?"
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[quote=Anonymous]It sounds to me like you're trying too hard and it's coming off as inauthentic and boring. When I did online dating, I went into first dates with no expectations. I saw the first date solely as a chance to "check each other out" and see if there might be some mutual attraction and enough to talk about. I didn't view it as me needing to impress or sell myself. And I didn't really see it as him needing to do that either. More like a step in between seeing a profile and going on a real date, to suss out chemistry. It was very obvious to me when I met a man who was clearly going on a lot of first dates in an effort to find someone, and it was a turnoff. Obviously you don't to be too blasé; that's not appealing either. But it's hard to cover up earnestness, even if you think you are. You've got to find the space between not taking it too seriously right off the top and not coming off as a cool-girl doormat. I was never not asked out on a second date, fwiw. [/quote]
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