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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Trauma doesn’t always look like what you’d expect. Somebody like Pete Davidson is what most people think when they think of trauma — watching your dad die on 9/11. One big or a series of big events. But I can be cumulative. I grew up upper middle class in a stable two parent home in which I had everything I could ever want and a large loving extended family and friend group. However, my mother found a way to call me fat every day, and was generally disapproving of everything I did or said and expressed it to my face on a regular basis. No where near as bad as being a refugee or bei mg raped but it was EVERY DAY from my earliest memories until the day I left home. It can be a cumulative effect of something that seems small. I’ve never known parental approval or acceptance and that’s traumatic. [/quote]

I’m so sorry, OP.  How pathetic that your mom took a charmed life - a healthy, loving haughtiest, a safe home, everything you could want in life - and ruined it over something as meaningless as your body shape.  Of all the good things you are as a person, and of all the good your life could have been, she had to poison it over something so superficial and meaningless.  What a sad, sad waste of all that she was blessed to have.  I’m sorry.  I hope you are surrounded with more love now and can feel it.[/quote]

Thank you PP! I forgive my mom. She was living generational trauma. I had some big problems with anxiety and depression in my 20s. I hit rock bottom and forced my entire family to have to confront this behavior. We are all doing so much better now and because of it I am breaking the cycle with my own kids. Am I sad I didn’t have the mom I needed growing up? Yes. Am I glad I can do better with my children? Yes. [/quote]

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