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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No one is entitled to impose into anyone else’s life so by definition the people doing the cutting off are always on the “right side”. The attitude that your adult children owe you something is exactly what leads to estrangement. [/quote]

OP here. I have never cut anyone off, nor has anyone done it to me. I’ve seen it happen among my friends though.[/quote]

Same here, and so many of my friends. Unbelievable reactions to simple  misunderstandings or actions deemed "toxic."

Here's some examples: 
1. Parents  bought a doll for a grandbaby.  They were not asked not to, so they  had no idea that son and daughter inlaw would become incensed about their choice of a patriarchal,heteronormative, gender stereotypical  toy. Upon  profuse apology,  they were told  that they  would  have to do more than  that! Damage was done and now  they know what parents must  be thinking about how  this child should be raised.

2. Son in law, age 29,  started an actual  fist fight with wife's sibling because of an argument over interest rate projections and impact on types of student loans  He put the 17 year old  in a headlock on floor. Daughter complained that her parents supported their own child  and not  her husband when they pulled him off of teen. Teen's nose was bleeding and shirt ripped.

3. Grandma put a store bought diaper rash paste, on baby when babysitting over  a long weekend, as there was none packed. Daughter was hysterical claiming  baby should  have been  seen by a doctor. Mom explained that  she used the same paste 
on her kids, which daughter interpreted as a 
judgement  of her parenting.  Rash was gone, and so  was relationship.

4. Parents didn’t attend soccer play offs of grandchild,  even though they  had attended many games.  Banned  from all future  events.

5. Parents  gave  their  33 year old their used car, about 12 years old but in good working condition. 33 year old lost job as chef in pandemic. Since job loss, has worked itinerant  jobs to keep cash  coming in. Received some stimulus. Other child, 37,  claimed favoritism.  Other child  is a lawyer. Not kidding! Not talking to parents,  not allowing contact with grandchildren.

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And everyone knows if you have one side of the story you know everything that happened and are ready to judge everyone involved.  I am sure these offenses were the first and only time any of these parents ever did anything the children slightly disagreed with and we’re otherwise Mr. Rogers level model parents. /s/[/quote]

See, none of these are actual offenses.  That's the point.  And, no, it's not one sided. [/quote]

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