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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you asked this question on DCUM, where the average poster would probably think twice before telling their neighbor their house was on fire rather than overstep...so the answers you've gotten here are not surprising.

For me, if I were truly worried about my brother's long-term happiness, I would have talked to him by now and wouldn't even think to crowdsource the question. But that's the relationship my siblings and I have with each. We have all stepped in with concern/advice at some point in each other's adult lives. Only you know what kind of relationship you have with your sibling and whether this would be appropriate...but I just want to share that there is a world where it is okay to do this.

That being said, it's a little strange that he's already engaged, and you're just now seeing red flags. Was this a really fast-moving relationship? Or has something changed recently? Also, I will note that the things that you cited don't seem completely off-the-wall nuts (though the grocery thing is definitely not "normal")...so I don't know how to calibrate the situation.

What you really need to ask yourself is whether you're genuinely worried about your brother or whether you're annoyed by the visit and want to let him know that. If the latter, don't say anything. If the former, then I would say something.[/quote]

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