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Isn't it ageist in the opposite direction to say someone is too young for something that meets their needs? Besides, the 54 year old said she'd be willing to move in at or before 70, not right now.[/quote]
No...because the places are geared  for the  sociological and physical development of the age that is appropriate. 
If you would like to  take  this out of context,  [b]a 62 year old isnt going  on girl's trips, dinners, etc., with 42 year olds.[/b] Their experience, lifestyles, development are in 2 different orbits. Can they  be friends? Sure! Do they want to live only among millennials  or Gen xers  to socialize? No. 
This  is ageist because anyone older is lopped in the category of need  and lifestyle of all that's elderly,  with a one size  fits all. "Elderly people need this, do that,  require this...."  70 is ALSO too young for for an independent living...and yes it is absolutely ageist to neglect to understand the very different developmental, physical,  and social  needs of older people. It is not one group. This the definition of ageism.  [/quote]

If by "girls trip" you mean bachelorette weekend only without a wedding associated with it, I guess not. I don't know -- I've never been into the girly-girly stuff, so I'd never want to do that. But if you say that women outgrow a certain sort of "girls trip," I believe you. A friend and I were once taking the train to New York for the weekend, and there was a group of women who were about our age and who were also on their way for their kind of weekend. Theirs involved shopping and day drinking, ours involved walking tours and plays.

But trips that involve theater, museums, hiking, interesting food, and used bookstores? There's no specific age limit for that, and it is very much the sort of thing people at a friend's mom's independent living neighborhood do. Sometimes together, sometimes with friends who aren't in the CCRC. It's really nice to be able to take off whenever they want and not worry about finding a house sitter.

I don't know how many CCRCs you've looked at, but there are plenty that are suitable for people under 80. It's not just about marching unburdened toward death with your age cohort. [/quote]

My parents live in one. I've been to many,  not  just  here in the DMV, but in Pa, NY, abd Florida.  Again,  no. Not suitable for under 80. The entire CCRC is designed for that age group.

Continually  providing examples of activities that  everyone enjoys is not the point. There are very different expectations,  experiences, needs and wants in different age bands. If we begin to look at seniors as people,  and not ages, this will become apparent.

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