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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's true that 73-year-olds can be very independent. But of my eight close relatives between 72 and 80, all previously healthy, I am seeing lots of health issues. Two have moved to independent living already, and two are moving soon. [/quote]

What if you were 57 and were not healthy- maybe  you could have a cancer or a mobility issue  from years of sports  (getting to be common!). Does  that mean you would need to live in an independent living? Hopefully you will have found a way to adapt in lifestyle or physical  space like you always have. It's the same  with a 72 year old man. 
One time someone asked me if I was going to leave  my house soon for a place without steps. I'm in my mid 60s.  My answer was "Why?"She explained that maybe I might break my legs,  or have to recover from  an operation.

Well, I did  break my leg when I was 47, and have recovered from  3 operations  up to now. I guess I'll do what I did,  but  there's nothing  going on with me that is really  any different  than  then. I'm not  more frail, less adaptable, not able  to cope. Why would  I consider moving in with older people now? When I'm ready, I'll be ready,  but an 83 year old is not a 72 year old, who is not a 62 year  old. Not everyone will have  chronic life limiting issues all at once. Not all people  need to  be corralled.  I'm all for CCRCs...they are great systems, BUT, it is for  older people.  "Independent living" is the  same.

Needs are different for everyone, but it really is a shame to assign a special living arrangement to this man who has no need for  it now. His age is not the determinate. [/quote]

For good or for ill, I think that specific age becomes much less important later in life than overall health, mental acuity, ability to plan and make decisions, etc. An "old" 60-year-old might seem older than a "young" 80-year-old. My grandmother lived past 100 and ALL of her friends were younger than her at the end, some by a couple of decades.[/quote]

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